Our Egos Block Us

The ego is the voice that says, “I have to be right“.

Or “I already know.”

Or “If they see the real me, they’ll leave.”

It’s the part of us that tries to keep us safe by staying in control, hiding vulnerability, or holding tight to old stories — even if those stories are painful.

In therapy, we pay attention to the ego not to destroy it, but to notice how it shows up:

When does it protect us?

When does it keep us stuck?

When does it stop us from connecting, from softening, from being fully present?

Awareness of ego is a kind of freedom.

Once we see it, we get to choose:

Do I speak from this mask, or from something deeper?

Do I defend myself here, or do I let myself be seen?

Challenging the ego isn’t about ego death — it’s about ego humility.

It’s the quiet courage to say:

I don’t know yet.

I need help.

I want to grow.

And that’s where healing begins.